My Story

I didn't set out to become a coach; I didn’t even know what it was until 2016.

If you'd met me at any point in my 20s or 30s, I was usually too deep in some wild plot twist, pursuing something or someone beautiful, and chasing impulses that felt better than figuring anything out. But that's the thing — I wasn't trying to figure it all out. I was living it. Harvesting life for wild stories and new experiences that were bigger than my shadow and the lesions on my heart.

A second-generation immigrant, I grew up with a brilliant, narcissistic, bipolar mother and a kind, avoidant, alcoholic father. I loved them both, and the proof was in the loyalty. I spent the last 10 years unlearning what loving them had taught me about myself. I have redefined what I deserve, fully accepting the balancing act I managed as I slipped and fumbled through every threshold. I owned how I chose to remain small and quiet to “keep the peace” - even though there was never any real peace. 

That kind of inheritance doesn't announce itself. It just shows up in your patterns, your relationships, your nervous system, the way you talk to yourself at 2am.

The work found me in 2015, the way most true things do — not through a plan, but through necessity. My baby was growing up, and I was not.

I became a single mother by force. I built a business with force. I was mentored by brilliant, manic guidance, jumping from fear to fear - it felt like home. For years, I ran on the kind of fuel that looks like capability and capacity from the outside and feels like survival, and chaos from the inside. Burnout wasn't a breakdown for me — it was a slow, grinding imp on my shoulder I kept trying to outwork, outrun, outperform for 4 years. I researched and experimented, and pushed until the bottom fell out in 2019. With nothing left, no parents, homeless and broke, saturated with betrayal, surrounded by death. Slowly over the last 6 years, I found what actually works: rest, new people, new challenges, simplicity, surrender, and a profound grace and forgiveness for myselves. 

I forgave the Addict Liz, the People Pleaser Liz, the Avoidant Liz, the Doormat Liz, the Monkey-See-Monkey-Do Liz. There are more at the table, and you will meet them over time - they are all welcome now - they may not have control like they used to, but they have a seat, food, and drink at my table.

I now know that was all to get more “love” because I had lost access to my own well of love. 

I listened more, moved way slower. Eventually, I began to breathe, and slowly I began to see it all as equal. I was no greater, no less than anything that crossed my path. The love I practiced internally became the operating system in my external experiences. 

I focused on mastering the mundane day-to-day and detached from the old measuring stick of tradition, society, family, friends, and material success. 

Through all of it, one thing was always true: I could see others clearly.

Ironic considering I lived in a fog for decades. I could see what they're really wrestling with beneath the capable, composed surface. How their patterns are twisting them up. How their own brilliant core speaks to them- trying to break through all the noise. 10 years and 1700+ women later, I am still here. Every session spoke to me as much as them - every workshop worked me as I tried to provide something new and meaningful.

My life became my greatest offering - a blueprint to rebuilding a life firm in love and saturated with grace. 

I offer it open, rested, and safe within myself.

Sit with me, and I will hold your signal steady while you find your footing.

Yes, I ask sharp questions. I listen fully and care deeply. I don't flinch — there isn't much you could bring me that I haven't already lived in some form. I embrace the faults and deviant aspects - never to be expelled, they are all adaptations of survival. 

My method is based on the heart of reintegration, service, and the grace of kindness that doesn’t require performance.

This work isn't about becoming a better version of yourself. It's about becoming more yourself — with fewer apologies and more room for all the yous that have evolved through a life of adaptation and survival.

If the old ways aren't working anymore and you are trying to birth something solid and eternal, this is a great place to start. Are you ready to start? Book a free Spark Session below.